Indian parents won't let me sleep over at my friend's house?

Question

So I'm a 14 year old girl and I wanna sleep over at an American friend's house for one night. We've been friends for about 2 years. My parents know her; she comes over to my house and I go over to her house. But I really wanna spend the night at her house! She's slept over at my house and she keeps bugging me and asking me to sleep over at her house, but I have to keep saying no because of my parents! And the first time I asked my parents if I could sleep over at her house, they asked me if she had any older brothers. So I said, "Yeah, she has two. One of them is in college and the other is in high school." And then they said no. So then I asked them why and they said, "Because they could rape you and you could get pregnant." And then I told them that I've known her entire family for 2 years and her brothers aren't like that and that they're always in their room and they never even really come out of there! But then they tell me that they don't wanna hear it, and that Indian kids don't sleep over at American kids' houses. And I've never even went to a sleepover in my life! Ever! And by the way, my parents are Indian and so am I, and the girl I wanna sleep over at is an American. So how can I convince them to let me sleep over at a friend's house? Thanks in advance! :D

Answer 1

Your parents are being over-protective, unfair and jumping to conclusions. You might want them to meet your friend's brothers to convince them or you could try going when those boys are away for the whole night like on holiday so you and your friend can have a sleep over.



I find that parents from countries like India and Pakistan (my parents are from Pakistan and the same age as you so I think I can understand how you feel) are a bit less modern and aren't keeping up with everyone else if you get what I mean.

Answer 2

It could be racism issues, because if your parents are Indian and your friends family American (Which you stress to us that the family is American) and they won't let you go because they think the American family will rape you then it could be that your parents are just racist. Maybe make a story up about meeting an Indian friend at school and ask to sleep over and see what they say. If they allow it then...

Answer 3

Indian parents are not understanding and have crazy shitty beliefs that usually contradicts with their child's beliefs. This is why most Indian kids lie to their Indian parents. You could have lied and said his brothers don't live with her. You could ask your friend's parents to convince your parents that you're gonna be safe.

Answer 4

Ignore Punjabi - he has hormonal problems



They're not gonna change their mind so it's pointless arguing any further. Wait 4 years when you can leave for college

Answer 5

My parents are the same way.

I don't think you can convince them, usually what they say goes.

Just tell your friend that you are sorry

Answer 6

First,try to tell them that she won't stop bugging u. If all else fails sneak out of ur house

Answer 7

OMG! our situations are so freaking similar!!!! that so weird. sorry this isn't really answering Ur question lol! I just had to point out how much our life's are alike :)

Answer 8

GTFO with your parent issues. We can't help you