Poll: How much would you tip a waiter/tress who had greatservice but subtlely flirted a little with your bf/gf?

Question

By excellent service I mean they were polite and friendly, was always there when you needed something, and etc.

By subtlely I mean made googy eyes, or smiled in that way longer, or some light flirtatious comments. Not overt like asking them out, or any very strong comments.

Answer 1

10%. I'd normally give 20%, but I feel it's rude to do that when I'm sitting right there. Rudeness means poor service to me.

Answer 2

I would tip 18-20%, close to what I would if they didn't flirt with my BF. I would try to figure out if she (or maybe even he) was just a naturally friendly person or. Even if I did think she had ulterior motives it wouldn't affect her tip much since it didn't affect our service, plus my boyfriend probably got a huge kick out of the extra attention. Now if it was more overt, then she's getting the black eye.



I also took a comm class so I know that waitresses that are a bit flirty statistically make more, so maybe she figured that he'd be the one to pick up the bill and leave the tip.



EDIT:

So she's acting interested in him and not the other customers.... I would still tip the same but I think I would let her know where she stands. A bit of hand holding and a kiss should get the message across. If not, then back to that black eye thing.

Answer 3

Ones personal insecurities shouldn't play a roll on figurin the tip, When I go to a restaurant I tip AT LEAST 20% if the service is good. If the service is lousy and there is absolutely no excuse for it then I tip $1.00. If the service wasn't great, but it wasn't the server's fault because the restaurant was too busy, or the cooks were slow and they seemed to genuinely give their best effort then I tip $4-5.00.

Don't listen to those people that tell you to double the tax! That is a lousy tip and people who do that should be ashamed of themselves and stay home and eat instead!

15% was the tipping standard in the US fifteen years ago. The standard now is 20% and it doesn't matter what meal it is. There are some people out there who need to learn some etiquette. If you can't afford that kind of tip THEN YOU CAN'T AFFORD TO GO OUT AND EAT

Answer 4

The same as usual, and what's proper in a percentage.



No disrespect meant to you, but so much a part of a servers job, a good server, is to be pleasant, and mild flirting, while seeming an attack on you, or the other, might pretty much keep a customer coming back.



Obviously the scale of the place matters too, and some of that might be expected, depending on the restaurant/ club/ sports bar/ or upscale French restaurant.



I think a Q that's just as important might be did this other person flirt back? OR show sincere embarrassment, or offense at it?



Dallas

Answer 5

If the flirting was obvious I would either leave a 5cent tip or nothing at all. Yeah Yeah service was great but there is a time and a place for this person to be flirting and during my breakfast, lunch or dinner is certainly not one of them. Maybe not getting a tip would help them with their future customers.

Answer 6

Tip on the service. If you're watching how they interact with every other customer and comparing that with how they treat you and your bf/gf, you've got some other issues. Unless they are really blatant - as in cleavage in the bf's face or crotch in the gf's face or slipping him/her a phone number - you could be misinterpreting their intentions, and it is just cheap to undertip based on faulty impressions. You ARE their paycheck as most get only a couple dollars/hr (if any) besides tips. If a mechanic or salesclerk flirted, you'd still owe the bill. Same with the server - you owe for good service rendered. Just complain to the manager, request a different server or don't go back if it really bothered you.

Answer 7

Uhm I would give her an okay tip - in our currentcy (south african Rand) I would give +/- R20 - R40. A McDonalds burger cost R8. So you know the relationship between a dolar and Rand.



Once a waiter over flirted with my BF and I told him I would pay then he should get the car in the rain and then I gave R5 short of the bill. Hehe I walked out - We don't ever eat there again...

Answer 8

i doubt she was flirting with your boyfriend. i had a waitress like that, she was extra friggin friendly. there when we needed her, informative, remembered every little thing and offered things before we even asked. she was an amazing server. my bf ordered a meal that came with a salad. he realized it had cheese on it and asked if he could get another w/o cheese...she was like "oh of course honey no problem at all, ill be right back!" and i thought for a moment...hmmm she called my man honey- not cool. but then i realized...no harm really shes just really friendly. then she came out with his salad...proceeded to walk away turned around quickly again and says "i just realized ur meal has grated cheese...do u want me to tell them not to put it on?" and i thought.. hmm shes really considering him a lot more than me..not cool. BUT then i realized hey, shes just doing her job and shes doing an awesome job doing her job! and shes considering him more bc he is requsting more. end of story. she was so incredible we gave her 30% tip and we NEVER do that. lol...i even went on the restaraunt website and wrote a review about her. i have never had such excellent customer service in my life. and so what if she googly eyes my man..im the one who took him home and i still got my water and breadsticks when i wanted them... :-)

Answer 9

I might be a little disgruntled, but over all you should rate them on their service. Maybe you misread the situation, or maybe she misread the situation. Maybe you were imagining things, and maybe she thought he was your brother or friend. Either way, excellent service should equal a decent tip, especially if her motive was not completely obvious

Answer 10

I always tip normal and leave a little note saying "Next time, take a picture it will last longer...he is mine" When we go back, that girl won't even think twice about looking at your man again!

Answer 11

I may not want to give him anytime but if he/she feel sorry i may give him the same amount as i would give to other waiter who has given a good service but has not flirt with my gf. Further it depends upon whether i liked him by his way he has expressed his sorry .In any case i would not give him more than Rs50, for a no star hotel.

Answer 12

No very stong comments, I would try to chalk it up to them being nice. I especially hate when this happens because my boyfriend is cheap, I am the ex-waitress so I am a great tipper and it makes me feel guilty not to tip well.



So their pay is depending on me, now if she were all up on his junk... I might have to slap a Biiach.

Answer 13

Half the normal tip along with a brief note asking that she/he not flirt with your date next time you come for dinner.

Answer 14

When they're flirting it's 'cause they need tips. It has nothing to do with hubby and everything to do with her assuming he's the one that will be paying her. I always tip well, regardless. If she flirts, she flirts. He's not going anywhere. No biggie.

Answer 15

I would tip her well. A little harmless flirting is nothing to get upset about as long as she doesn't try to slip him her number lol. And it would make him feel good.

Answer 16

haha depends on how jealous you got. It sounds like you are a jealous guy. I wouldnt worry about unless she made too many trips to the bathroom or worse....the back of the house (kitchen).

Answer 17

15%

Answer 18

I would not pay her a tip. She doesn't deserve one if she made me uncomfortable during my meal. And then I'd let my husband know I was really tweaked that he didn't discourage the behavior.

Answer 19

Not a problem I've ever had. Most of the places we eat, I tip $5.00.

Answer 20

20% that is their job , and many times they do not know who is paying so they use what they can to earn a tip.

Answer 21

$6.

Answer 22

I would give them 20% and attach it to a lunchbox with a little note that says, "If you try any harder to get my man-you may need to pack a lunch."

Answer 23

they do that because they figure that's where the tip is coming fromme. but the real trick of it , is to make the wife happy , because believe me, her mood will affect your tip more than a wink at him will.



look at it this way , and this is what i do.. go with the flow.. tell him "She likes you... , but i get to take you home." ;);) then rub your foot in his crotch. he won't pay anymore ttention to her,after that. i can almost guarantee it. :D

Answer 24

Not a red cent. That's showing disrespect for my relationship.

Answer 25

That happened to me the other night!

Stupid bitty was flirting with my hubby!



Meal = $44.01

Tip = $6

Answer 26

dont tip them at all-i mean his behaviour towards your bf/gf cancels out any good service and vice versa

Answer 27

18 %



20% is for great quality service...



knock em down a few for the flirting, but hey... she/he still goes home with you right?

Answer 28

15%

Answer 29

25 % and then we would take her home with us.

Answer 30

Maybe 12-14%.

Answer 31

Yeah, and if my girlfriend gave in it's her lost...

Answer 32

id shove my foot deep into his ***

Answer 33

One black eye

Answer 34

Zero.



It's not professional.