i have this fear of growing up? and that my parents will die?

Question

i fear growing up, i am 16 and life is awesome surely there are many thing i want like i want lots of make up and wanna drive around in a car but that would only be possible when i grow up i just saw the lion king and saw how simba's life changes but i have this fear that my mum and dad will die i love them i don't want them to die but l=someday i will be maybe 60 or 70 or maybe i'll die earlier maybe i'll die tomorrow. sometimes i feel like i should attempt suicide before my parents die and just thinking about moving out and marrying some guy and have kids of my own makes me cry i dont want life to change but i want certain things like go to a college and do stuff have a job earn money buy stuff but on other hand i feel like i should attempt suicide! HELP ME!!

Answer 1

Wrong attitude. I couldn't wait to leave home. I loved my parents but I wanted freedom.



I joined the Air Force. Believe me there is no fear there. You are taken care of and you gain maturity. I was nervous when I got out but I adapted. The Air Force then paid for my college.



I am now retired after 41 years of work. It was fun.



I envy you ... life is a blast.



Comment: It is strange hearing all this fear about parents dying today. Even my own kids. I don't understand. I never knew anyone who thought that way when I was young. My last parent died in 1984 - and I will admit there was a terrific period of loneliness. But I had a wife and kids and a good job. So life moved on.

Answer 2

I'm 52 and I'm still afraid of these things. My father died about 25 years ago and I am still sad he is gone. I was afraid to get married and now I've been married for 30 years. This is really an insecurity issue. If you're like me you go around always asking yourself "What if......?" You can easily become torn between the desire to experience new things and the fear of what may come to pass. I believe this is an issue of understanding your personal temperament. No matter who you are, great things you never imagined can happen, and bad things as well. Try to find a few people to express your fears to and tell God as well. You are not alone. There are many people who have felt the same things and are doing just fine.

Answer 3

You need to face the reality. Everyone grows up. Everyone grows old. Everyone dies.

It is all matter of accepting it and facing the truth. Everyone has/had these fears like you, and they didn't commit suicide, why should you? Are you not ready to take on the challenge? You're one year older than me. And I also have these fears, but I have come to terms that I cannot stop time. Thinking about such silly things would only waste your time, 'live your life to the fullest'. I admire your undeniable love for your parents.

Answer 4

Your parents could die right now at any given time. For that matter nobody knows their specific time on Earth. So just live while you can and not worry about tomorrow because nothing is a guarantee! You're too young to be worried.

Answer 5

I'm 17 and I have those fears sometimes too . I've been having them for about four months now. I fear my parents demise too and I feel that it will come too soon .



But I tell myself that adulthood won't be that bad . I think we fear it because we don't know what it's like to be on our own yet .

Answer 6

Please call your nearest depression/suicide helpline, ASAP. It sounds like you have depression, a treatable illness.



Pessimism and negativity about the future naturally come with the depression. Many teenagers and young people also seem to go through a particularly hard stage with self-esteem, image and emotional issues.



Please don't ever try to kill yourself!! Imagine how your loved ones would feel. The anguish would never end for them. It would take a PERMANENT TOLL on them.



You don't have to kill yourself! You can have “a life” in JESUS (John 10:9-10)



In Jesus, life can be far better and peaceful, but the first step is to never give up on yourself!



PLEASE, pray to Him (Jesus.) Pour out your heartaches to Him. Trust me, Jesus Christ will HEAR your prayer, and can (with time,) heal ALL of your wounds.



Put your trust in Him, that He CARES about you, and will listen to your concerns. He LOVES you so much and even knew you when you were in your mother's womb!



"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you...." - Jeremiah 1:5.



No matter who you are, God LOVES you and wants to give you a FUTURE and everlasting life.



“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”



That being said, suicide is a SIN. A sin that will send you to Hell (a place of eternal punishment and a place that there's no escape from.)



All those who reject Jesus Christ and die in their sins (and suicide,) will be cast into the 'Lake of Fire' (Hell) forever. Hell is definitively a REAL place, and once you go there, there's no getting out!



You can go on Youtube and watch many people's testimonies about dying and going to Hell. You can start watching here; http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MN8dRnPth…



Though one may not understand the severity of God sentencing a person to burn in Hell for all eternity, as punishment for sin, we must realize that God is far more holy and just than we could ever imagine.



Your life, and body belongs to GOD, who created you.



No one should ever even seriously consider something so foolish as killing one's self. I hope these few words have encouraged you.



I'll pray for you.



PS; when you have a relationship with Jesus, things ALWAYS get better with time. He loves you and wants you to have a future. A wonderful future which includes EVERLASTING life. :-)

Answer 7

Well - my daughter is 52 in April, and I'm still around!

Answer 8

I had that fear too.It's normal.My folks are 59 & 60 now.

Answer 9

lol dont grow up