Question:
Im ashamed of my attraction to older men? How do I suppress them?
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:18:27 UTC
The truth is that deep down inside Im attracted to older men, men in their late 30, 40s...Its normal except I am only 22 going on 23. I shouldnt find a man 40 attractive, I shouldnt find a man who is 48 attractive. But I do. I dont date because I am religious and a conservative Muslim woman but of course I get attracted to men, its natural. When I was in college, I use to have so many good looking professors who were in their 40's. I shouldnt like them but I did. The way they acted, the way they dressed, the conversations I could have with them, jokes, they seem so much more sensitive, and you can actually carry a conversation with them. They seem sensible, not all but a lot. Of course a good looking man is attractive regardless of age. Its not that I like all old men, I like a older man that is good looking as well, I like their hair, their rugged faces, their soft wrinkles and sensitivity. Of course I would never let anyone else about these feelings, Im embarassed by it. But its just true. I dont have any issues either an incredibly loving and normal relationship with my father. Then I look at men my age and they seem so immature, they dont know anything about the world, they lack sensitivity and cant carry a decent conversation. How do I stop feeling this way?
36 answers:
?
2009-09-26 16:37:18 UTC
Can i just say that your one Beautiful drop dead gorgeous girl, which is the main reason I'm commenting. As for your question, it doesn't matter what your going through in means of attraction, I'm sure the right person will come your way soon. Your going to break a lot of hearts and i'm sure a decent guy will come around your age. Attraction is an Attraction, you might not have to act upon it but don't try to suppress it you'll grow out of it when you've found the right "younger" person. Suppressing your feeling and hiding the real you will reappear later on in life, discover who you are and deal with it. This attraction will soon dissipate once you've found the right person. Hope i could help.
Brent
2009-09-26 16:33:49 UTC
This could be a functional survival mechanism. I think it's actually not that weird for young ladies to like older men. Especially educated ones with half a brain. Most guys my age (26) still act like they're in high school. Their aspirations consist of getting laid and drinking.



Perhaps you're close with your family, but you're just getting used to being on your own. And a sense of stability (that you've left at home w/ mom n dad) attracts you to men with more stable lives and an aptitude for sensitivity.



You're obviously a humble person with more on your mind than the local pub. Also, you could be having an issue of surroundings. Are your friends mature? Do they wanna do more mature things? There are guys our age out there are into hangin out w/ a little wine and cheese and having a good conversation, but also know how to party when the times right.



Also, it's my experience that pent up emotions tend to get worse (by growing) not better with conditioning yourself. Why don't you date a little with a nice man in his 30s and see how it feels, if you gotta get it out of your system. Bottom line is, it's natural to feel the way you do. Don't beat yourself up over it.
?
2009-09-26 16:34:38 UTC
Find Someone like Obama's Child ! Young not too rich but is a load of fun to be with and a comforter in times of crisis.



You are not to be ashame of your feelings for older men, look at the years and ask yourself , Where will you be in five more years ? I once

had a relationship with a person ten years my senior, what I found, was that while I enjoyed her youthfulness I was reliving a passage of time .



If you can't relate to your spouse at your own level, you will go down to their's , 'worse of all you'll never rise again , once you two stay together "



You might just be too mature for the men you meet who are the same age as you . Finally love has nothing to do with age. find that special someone who warms your heart and soothe your soul with just his presents.
Girl Interrupted
2009-09-26 16:21:46 UTC
I am so with you. I have always been attracted to older men. When I was 22 I had a relationship with a 48 yr old and it lasted 4 yrs. There is no age for love.
Ladyitch
2009-09-26 16:31:53 UTC
There is nothing wrong about how you feel when in the company of someone that is mentally stimulating. Most Men your own age are immature, that is why most if not all women seek and find someone older then they are. Don't be ashamed of your feelings, that is what makes you who you really are. Keep with your studies, that special someone will come sit beside you while you sit quietly. He will come to you when you least expect it.



You sound very mature for your age. You will know, when you meet that special someone. The hunt is half the fun. Respect yourself and he will respect you.
anonymous
2016-05-21 05:13:19 UTC
Older men are generally more experienced and mature. Hence, I say generally. You might not have had daddy problems but there might have been someone in your life, growing up you found attracted to for God only knows what reason. Life is funny like that sometimes. I myself am attracted to younger females. probably because my first sexual encounter was with a woman who was 17 yrs older than me. It made an impression on me I can say.
Pastel Hearts
2009-09-26 16:37:35 UTC
I'm 14 and I love someone who is 40. I'm not ashamed I love 2 tell ppl! It's part of me and I'm proud of it! I don't know if u can stop feeling that way. You can find someone ur age who acts that way. there must be some. Sorry i dont have much advice. I never really thought the way i feel is something to get ride of. I'm in love and I don't want to change that just because I should. sorry ur gonna hate my answer....
milah08
2009-09-26 16:25:15 UTC
I think what you like in a man is old fashioned. There are plenty of early - mid 20's who are old fashioned. As a teenager we like people way over our age and think nothing about it. So keep looking. They seem immature because sometimes they are. But Allah made many so i'm pretty sure you'll find the perfect one. Don't be ashamed at all. It's old fashioned and kinda normal. good Luck
Jennifer
2009-09-26 16:23:52 UTC
There is nothing wrong with that. I'm 24 and my bf is 50, so some women is just attracted by older men. I'm attracted by men my age also it's just what you prefer.
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:44:09 UTC
I knw the feeling.....Im 15 and Im attracted to men who are in their early 20s..I dnt think its wrong to be attracted to older man....its the same as some men liking skinny women...some men liking fat women......ppl are attracted to a person for several reasons
doug g
2009-09-26 16:22:59 UTC
What is nice here in America you don't have to stop feeling that way. If an older man is what you would like you can have that. And if that is really your picture you could probably land a rich one.
mark r
2009-09-26 16:22:07 UTC
It is ok to be attracted to older men, it shows that you are looking for people with more mature ideals like yourself.



What will happen eventually is that you will come to accept younger men for who they are and you will have more fun with them than you would with older men



Older men (if they are not in good physical shape) tire easily.
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:23:08 UTC
Hi, there is nothing wrong with being attracted to older men, just be careful. I married my husband who is eight years older. My mom married my dad who is nine years older. As long as you are not too young. If you are an adult, date who you want.
?
2009-09-26 16:29:32 UTC
there isnt anything wrong with it. supressing it would be bad for ur health. so what if ur attracted to them. some people like older people, some like younger, some like taller, some shorter... no big deal. accept it, embrace it, roll with it. Men that are older are more mature than the younger 1ns and u probably like that.
BOOM, roasted.
2009-09-26 16:22:35 UTC
you're possibly simply attracted to maturity.

that's fine.

everyone has their own thing,

you just happen to like guys a bit older.

you're of legal age, so that's not an issue either.

as long as you don't get involved with your professors.
?
2009-09-26 16:22:53 UTC
what the hell is wrong with older men my husband is 38 and Im 23 and were crazy about each other and our familiys love each other . Your nuts!
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:23:37 UTC
Wow girl I just read that long a-s-s question. Ha ha anyway,don't be ashamed ok It is what it is. Look at Catherine Zeta Jones and Celine Dion they don't look ashamed at all!
Mister Cupcakes :)
2009-09-26 16:23:27 UTC
omg...i'm a teenager and i like older men and yes i have a perfectly good relationship with my father so don't think i have daddy issues :)



don't be ashamed embrase it :) silver foxes rock
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:22:45 UTC
Well your 22 so go out with who you want.
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:21:23 UTC
That's totally normal. People don't like who they're 'supposed' to like. I mean, it's totally random. As long as you don't pursue it, everything should be fine.



Besides, George Clooney (48) is smokin'. ;)
Paul
2009-09-26 16:21:16 UTC
Find a picture of Larry king naked...that oughta do it
Moogz
2009-09-26 16:21:39 UTC
You shouldn't try to stop how you feel. It is perfectly normal. You can't help who you like.
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:20:41 UTC
You can find who ever you want attractive why does it matter how old they are.
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:21:47 UTC
That's an unnecessary thing to be ashamed of.
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:24:28 UTC
Me too, its because they are better looking and more mature. nothing to be ashamed of
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:21:42 UTC
Age is just a number



but their bank account is NOT. Make sure it's very high number
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:21:30 UTC
thought you said they where hitting on you the other day

specifically "white men" if i can remember
angie_baby
2009-09-26 16:26:19 UTC
it does not matter who you like as long as the treat you right
The Brand Man
2009-09-26 16:21:08 UTC
Just take a look at me!
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:22:26 UTC
Well, if your interested....I AM the Governor of California
4 strings
2009-09-26 16:26:36 UTC
Maybe for the money?
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:21:05 UTC
tell em it's tight
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:21:49 UTC
date one and have him fall asleep during sex...
anonymous
2009-09-26 16:22:13 UTC
it your choice you can dat whoever you want



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remoserjr107
2009-09-26 16:22:36 UTC
That's your choice.....!!
MHMcHH(BackUp)
2009-09-26 16:20:34 UTC
look at my pic


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