Question:
POLL: What should i DO about MY LIAR BEST FRIEND?! 10points. HELP ME!?
SexiesttMofo♥
2010-11-18 14:14:17 UTC
Okay, Please read it ALL. I REALLY need someone's help! Okay, So i've had really strong suspicions that my BEST friend- Valerie- was talking to people she didnt know. And I've asked her and she's denied it. She always hides her phone from me. I havnt even seen it once! And even when it's an emergency(when I need to speak with my mother)- She is still very stingy with her phone. Sometimes when Valerie gets a new message- I glance over at her phone quickly - and I see she has new messages from guyss like "Jesse, Carlos, Michael, Orlando- People that i've never seen or heard about. So i've had enough, so i decided to ask my friend- Matt- If he could message her on facebook to see if she'd reply and flirt back. Now Matt is an really attractive guy, and Valerie doesn't know him. So Matt messages her and she immediatley starts talking and flirting back with him. I really don't know what to say. So Matt and Valerie havve been talking for a while now- so Matt asks her out. And she says yes of course! And now Val thinks they are dating (although they've never met before) and Matt is just testing her. So then, Matt asks her If she's gonna tell anyone about their realtionship. She says "all my friends except my best friend." (Im her best friend). And Matt asks her why. She says "Because my friend bethany is really protective and judgemental, and I don't want her to know. She'll make us end our relationship, and she'll start some fights." When i saw these messages I was upset. Im not a protective person. The only protective thing I've ever done is this because I'm worried about my friends saftey. So Matt sends me a message on facebook- and he copies& pastes their ENTIRE conversation, So then i can confront Valerie and show her the messsages. When I tell her- she completley lies to me. She tells me that he made up all the messages (it's about 5 pages long) and she tells me that Matt was her old friend at her old school. Of course I pretend to believe her, but in the back of my mind I know the entire truth. I just couldn't believe she could look me in the eye and lie to me like that. They are suppossed to hangout this Friday, and of course Valerie isn't going to tell me about it. Little does she know.. Second of all- Im not a judgemental person- I accept everyone as my friend as long as they re caring and nice. If anything Valerie is judgemental- She didnt like my friends at first. She called them loud, and annoying, etc. And she didnt even know them. Matt also called me a protective b*tch to Val- to see if Valerie would back me up. SHE DIDNT. So what should I do about this? Should I ignore it, confront it? I really don't want to confront it because she'll say something like this- "I'm your best friend- you dont believe me?" What should I do??
SORRY for the long message. But I really need someone's help!
Thank You
Nineteen answers:
James Loosefeet
2010-11-18 14:16:11 UTC
punch her in the COOCHIE!!!!
Lorri R
2010-11-18 22:20:01 UTC
Girl, this is one complicated situation. Dont pretend to not know because that just makes her feel like everything is okay. Say "Hey i thought you were my best friend but I cant be best friends with somebody who lies. when you are ready to be honest and back me up when people call me something nasty like matt did, im right here."
Maddy918
2010-11-18 22:18:40 UTC
Honestly, if this were me I would totally back away. This is too much drama for me personally. Anyway, if she was a true friend- she wouldn't be going behind your back. Even though, this is a dirty trick to play on someone your "friend" should not be lying to your face.



Best of luck sweetie :)
?
2010-11-18 22:25:40 UTC
Forget that witch! If she won't tell you (her best friend) about guys she is dating, then she honestly isnt a friend at all! She is a compulsive liar & you should stop talking to her. From what you said she sounds like a slut & a liar! Just dump her trust me it isnt worth it, friends like that will stab you in the back!
Jamie
2010-11-18 22:18:55 UTC
You should tel her. If you don't, you will never solve your problem. Also, I don't think Valerie should be your best friend if she's lying to your face! Tell herstill, it is the best thing to do. Good luck!
churrayez
2010-11-18 22:22:53 UTC
She sounds like a bad friend.

Just go up to her and say "I'm sorry but I think we have to end our friendship" or something like that.

Make new, honest, funny friends and just stay away from her if you need to.

It looks like she's being a bad best friend.
Beast
2010-11-18 22:22:51 UTC
tell your friend that you know the truth she is a direspectful liar and ignore her orrr act like evrything is fine just hang with other people when she says why are u ignoring me be like i dont like liars explain then make the decision on how far ur realation ship goes
martini
2010-11-18 22:19:39 UTC
u should just end ur friendship with her, because if she's lying about umimportant things like a guy, what else is she capable of? its better to get away from people like that, u dont need that in ur life
jessica
2010-11-18 22:24:09 UTC
Get a new friend, seriously all of this is just stupid. You should find a best friend who wont keep things from you.
anonymous
2010-11-18 22:22:46 UTC
honestly it's not up to you to try to manage your friends life. I don't ever want my friends getting into my relationship and trying to change me things I do, my friends used to ignore me for their dumb boy and I was just left lost and confused, I had to find my own way.
?
2010-11-18 22:17:40 UTC
Looks like she is going to be a ex best friend to me!!
anonymous
2010-11-18 22:20:24 UTC
THE ONLY THING YOU CAN DO IS LET HER LEARN FOR HERSELF

SHE OBVIOUSLY ISN'T A TRUE FRIEND IF SHE LIES TO YOU

SHE WILL LEARN ONE DAY SHE'LL TALK TO THE WRONG PERSON

AND IT WILL FREAK HER OUT SOME PEOPLE JUST HAVE

TO SEE THINGS FOR THEIR SELVES AND SHE IS OBVIOUSLY

ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE
anonymous
2010-11-18 22:21:50 UTC
sounds like you shouldn't be friends with her anymore. If i were you I won't be friends with someone who lied to me.
Crystle
2010-11-18 22:22:56 UTC
i would move on and make a new firned dont say anythingg
?
2010-11-18 22:19:50 UTC
How about you get out of her business and let her do her thing :)
?
2010-11-18 22:17:09 UTC
You sound like an awful friend.
*¨* ☆Broken Angel☆*¨*
2010-11-18 22:15:36 UTC
get a new friend
Google is my best friend
2010-11-18 22:18:07 UTC
This is polls and surveys and thats a lot of words...
anonymous
2010-11-18 22:20:10 UTC
TELL HER TO STOP LYING!!!!


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